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It's been something I've wanted to talk about for a while now. Now, this is not directly related to me, just more relevant to stories I've heard from friends, acquaintances, event organizers, etc. within the kink community.
Vetting, dropping a name of someone who "knows you," saying someone will vouch for you, what's it mean? When is it valid? When is it under false pretenses? When is it meant genuinely, but something got miscommunicated? And what's it look like to organizers, regardless?
